The Man I Met at the Bus Stop

As I walked toward the bus stop I saw an older man with a large belly leaning back on the bench playing a relaxed version of air guitar. As I got closer to him, I smiled. He motioned to the seat next to him, “you can sit down if you like.” He said it as if he expected me to turn down his invitation. I did. I was happy standing, but that didn’t mean I wasn’t interested in talking to him. I could smell the liquor on his breath, but he was definitely lucid. He asked me where I was …

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“Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval” — I was late for my first shift as a Zombie at Fright Night’s. This is What Happened…

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I want to share two books that have really inspired me this month. Those books are Daring Greatly by Brene Brown and Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck (affiliate links). Daring Greatly was written after Brene Brown’s TED Talk on Vulnerability, and in it she shares her research on shame, perfectionism (this one was incredibly eye opening for me) and connection. “Perfectionism is not self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted …

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I Reinvented Myself, But I Don’t Feel Any Different

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I’m in the process of reinventing myself. I’m not exactly sure what that means… but that’s what I’m doing. I’m reinventing myself with a new haircut, an upcoming makeup tutorial, some new clothes (I think I want to experiment with being a hat person), and a photo shoot on Tuesday to cap off the transformation.  That was last week. I was SO excited about this HUGE TRANSFORMATION back then, but when I got home Tuesday night, after dying my hair a bright purplish; reddish brown, I caught myself starring at the ceiling with a thought circling above my head like those …

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My New Bedroom: The Before Picture

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I’m surrounded by books, pictures and shelves that need to be put up, clothes that need a dresser, and makeup that needs a table. Right now, my new room is pretty close to the definition of chaos, and sharing this picture makes me feel incredibly vulnerable… but I’m sharing it because I want to document everything. My life is in transition right now, and I want anyone else out there who is also transitioning to know that it is okay for this period of your life to be chaotically crazy and not entirely put together.  I want and aspire to …

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Moving Day! (I don’t have the time to write this right now, but I’m writing it anyway)

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I’m moving tomorrow. As I write this I am sitting in the Breka Bakery on Davie street — with a giant to-do list that I don’t really have enough time to do — feeling a little disoriented, a little panicked and a little excited. My bedroom is filled with boxes, and the load of laundry I did this morning hangs on the drying rack in the corner, ready to be packed away. I feel like I should be doing something right now, other than writing this, but I felt the sudden need to express something. A feeling, I guess. I …

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Dream World vs Real World — If You Haven’t Noticed, My Life is a Little Strange Right Now

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I’m in limbo right now. Sometimes I’m insanely productive and sometimes I simply do not feel like doing anything but watching Netflix and eating copious amounts of chocolate. A dreary way to start a post, but I promise that I’m not in a pessimistic mood. More of a contemplative mood. After a really awesome coffee with a friend of mine this morning, I’ve realized that it really is time for a little bit of honesty and even more self directed compassion; all while listening to Taylor Swift’s “Shake It Off” (which I am listening to right now and trying REALLY …

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I’m Afraid to Be a Feminist

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It terrifies me to write about feminism. I was so inspired yesterday when I watched Emma Watson’s speech at the UN, but then today I stumbled upon this article about the sexual assault threats that she is now facing for speaking out against female suppression and for equality between the sexes. I am terrified to write about feminism because I don’t want to seem irrational in my rage, confusion, and fear. Reading that article actually made me cry. I feel desperate and like giving up at the same time. In a recent post I wrote for Creative Life, I asked …

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Taking “Potential” Off the Pedestal. Feeling Grateful and Accountable for Myself.

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Hey, So, this past weekend I sat myself down and completed a task I had been putting off for awhile. I went through the hundreds of posts on this blog, and I chose my favourites/the most significant entries for a “start here” section I’d been wanting to create. Here’s what I came up with. This is what I realized in doing this: over the last 2.5 years, I’ve done a lot. I’ve done more than I’ve given myself credit for. I have a tendency (like most people, I think) to dwell on all of those things I haven’t done, instead of …

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Humming in Public: How I’m Learning to Live My Life for Me

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Why is it so embarrassing to hum in public? I mean, I do it all the time, but when people catch you they usually look at you like you’re crazy. I routinely walk around the Vancouver seawall memorizing lines (ie. talking to myself as I listen to the other characters’ responses in a pre-recorded audio on my iphone), so I get this “is she crazy? look a lot, but the looks are definitely more prevalent whenever I’m caught quietly rocking out to a hummed melody. In addition to singing/humming, I also love to dance. I am not particularly good (YET!) at either …

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Planning For Growth While Staying Accountable and Spontaneous: 4 Templates For Your Life

Awhile back, I used to share my weekly planners on this blog. I stopped sharing them because I felt ashamed by how rarely I followed through on my commitments. I started to see the same tasks, week after week, being left undone. I spent a lot of time doing things that didn’t matter. Although the planner did help me (sort of) to organize my week, where I was going continued to feel a little bit fuzzy. I couldn’t quite identify what it was I was actually working toward. I mean, I had a huge grandiose vision of success, but I …

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